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I’m so sorry—you must be terrified. The fact that she told you is important: it means some part of her wants help and trusts you. You don’t need to say the perfect thing; you need to stay calm, loving, and focused on safety.

### What to do right now

1. **Check immediate safety gently**
   Say something like:
   > “I’m really glad you told me. I’m not mad. I love you, and I want to understand and help keep you safe.”

   Then ask directly:
   > “Are you thinking about killing yourself?”  
   > “Do you feel like you might hurt yourself again tonight?”

   Asking directly does **not** put the idea in her head—it helps you know how urgent this is.

2. **If she may seriously hurt herself, has suicidal intent, or injuries need medical care**
   Don’t leave her alone. Call emergency services or go to the nearest ER.  
   If you’re in the U.S. or Canada, call or text **988** for immediate crisis support. If elsewhere, contact your local emergency number or crisis line.

3. **If she is physically safe for the moment**
   Stay with her or nearby. Remove or secure obvious means of harm—razors, blades, medications—without making it feel like punishment. You can say:
   > “I’m going to move these for tonight, not because you’re in trouble, but because I want to help you get through this safely.”

4. **Get professional help quickly**
   Contact her pediatrician, a licensed therapist, or a child/adolescent mental health crisis team. Self-harm is treatable, but it’s not something you should have to manage alone. If she already has a therapist, call them and tell them what’s happening.

### What to say—and what to avoid

Helpful:
- “Thank you for telling me.”
- “I’m not angry with you.”
- “You don’t have to explain everything right now.”
- “We’ll handle this together.”
- “When the urge comes up, what helps even a little?”

Try to avoid:
- “Why would you do this?”
- “You’re doing this for attention.”
- “Promise me you’ll never do it again.”
- Punishment, shame, or searching her room in a dramatic way.

### For tonight, you can make a small safety plan
Ask her:
- “What are the times or feelings when it gets hardest?”
- “What can we do for the next hour if the urge comes back?”
- “Would it help to sit with me, watch something, take a shower, hold ice, draw on your skin with marker, or text a crisis line?”

The goal is not to solve everything tonight. The goal is: **she is not alone, she is not shamed, and she gets connected to help.**

If you tell me what country you’re in and whether she says she feels suicidal or unsafe tonight, I can help you decide the next safest step.